But he sends all love messages to his 2 nd wife. However a woman is not the same level as the man as shes required to please him in whatever situation unless its a situation where she has no power to do anything about (i.e monthly periods). As far as the sex thing.the qaran does tell us this.hopefully our husbands are understanding and considerate of our feelings.but it is our obligation ..Overallthis article was very usefuland it helped me understand my husband a little moreas I am a revert from a western culture and my husband is north african.my biggest concern in our marriage has been that he doesnt talk and share with me as much I felt he should. If the woman convinces him somehow not to be angry or have some genuine problem to avoid it then I dont think she will be cursed. In a religion banning intoxication, this is one of very few ways to feel drunk or high. I could not find the name of the author for this article. He does not share the same bed with you for weeks What does a Women do then? But we need to understand the spirit of the Islamic ruling first. However, in many Muslim cultures, men are raised to be stoic and tight-lipped. How can they think they can treat both the wives equally, its easy said than done, its not possible to love the wives the same. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". yes, sex is not the only thing important in marriage, but it is the most important. Jazakumullahi Khairan. ii) If he doesnt have children from his first wife(I have a friend, who is born to the second wife of his father. It is genuine real life issue and needs to be answered islamically. alhamdulillah we were blessed with a lill princess.hubby has changed since I gave birth to our bby.he would touched me whenever he want.he loves kids so do I.i thought maybe its because he was tired thats why he refused to sleep with me in 3 to 4 days..after that he would come n touched me again.now I had to undergo an abortion. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Alhamduliallh. when he want love with me, it is at day time at other place. How can something as superficial as growing a beard be a sign of a better muslim? this young man will treat you as nicely after marriage as he does now? - muslim1 Jan 3, 2013 at 3:47 1 This is an issue faced not just by women but also by men. In Western society it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected life. (Verse 4: 129), 4. Why? The reason lies in the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are identified as females. Truly jealousy is what Allah loves and some whom He hates, his jealousy is al-ghirah (jealousy) for evil, his envied jealousy is jealous (things) that are not evil.(HR an-Nasai and Ibn Hibban), 15. we can support and help them without sharing our husband. decreed jealousy for women and jihad for men, so whoever bears that with Men really desire sex. then how does looking and thinking of other women makes it completely normal and natural and unsinnful? Men cannot even manage one woman fairly, how would he be able to multi task with two women who have two separate needs and expectations. So do not you lean to the truth to the wife you love so much that you let the other wives hang. Fourth, never EVER speak about what happened between you to anyone else. you are leading readers that are muslim men in the wrong path! arguments. I wouldnt allow my future husband to marry a 18 never married single gal, but if hes going to marry a widow, a divorced or older lady who couldnt get married, then maybe, maybe we can talk about him getting a second wife. So unmarried women are public property? Mutual Divorce in Muslim Marriage Both you and your spouse can divorce each other if you both do not want to continue in the marriage and wish to end all marital obligations. I would leave him the second he mentioned it to me. You cannot say Im a muslim but I dont agree to polygamy. This list will give you good idea of some of the things your husband thinks about, but just doesnt know how, or want, to tell you. He is a man and capable of anything. Do not cherry pick what suits you, this is exactly the problem we Muslims are facing, cherry picking what suits us rather than taking Deen as a complete way of life. She lives in Senegal with her husband and his other wives. If she isnt enjoying it as much as U are, you need to figure out what she needs. When was the last time a man was questioned about his wifes happiness? Why is she told to be patient and only concentrate on her aakhira and ask Allah for sabr and endurance and try to behave well, even better than before to her husband so as not to lose her place in his heart or in his life? and dont let someone walk over you. dt will marry her , wat widow, divorcee who many men will not like 2 make as first and they need 2 remarry. Even I agree with it, wat do u hav to say for this.? In Islam, marriage is a civil contract. And that resentment will build up and may lead to him being unnecessarily mean to you or losing some love. Correction can be painful but .. tj. So stop being childish and open your eyes . He says that he doesnt want them cause they dont have respect for themselves. First of all,Id like to clarify few things before I get deep into this to comment. to continue to have any place in your life. While a man is always ready to cause the rise of this ummah. Quran is the only religious scripture in the world that says marry only one Quran is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the phrase marry only one. if a women is widowed i will request my husband to give her some property , provide education to childrens and also money. He also told a lie that he has severe disease but that lady continues to intact with him. Yeah so what if a we chooses to aim higher at least we dont sit on our back sides everyday and live off JSA every week. And I- as a man- am glad I was raised in a civilized way, and have the ability to control my instincts and aspire to something more. If I just want to know how a potential husband would react to this and would he be angry or frustrated and would this be a bad start to a marriage? In the hadith of Abu Dawud below, it is narrated. Why should a nice type Muslim sister be patient when her husband is verbally or even physically abusive, emotionally distant, selfish, childish an narcisstic? And the wrongdoers will get their due punishment as well. Our words can be deleted from here but not from THERE. If you think your husband is brave, noble, handsome, strong, TELL HIM. As long as he is of good character and religiously committed, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption. Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (1084) from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) Astagfirullah Allah forgive us all ameen. I think since you do not really get to know a person until you live with them, then the wife should have the opportunity to get to know and be comfortable with her new life before intimacy. But if they want it to be real, they need to think about what the wife REALLY wants and needs, instead of whats easier for them. "In 2019 my husband admitted to being in love with this woman and he sends her money from time to time and also claims to be the godfather of her children." Sun, Jan 15, 2023 LOGIN Subscribe for $1 (interpretation of the meaning): Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in The Muslim should not pray istikhaarah about Second, it may indicate that you are committed to the feelings your sister-in-law has for you. P.S Please keep open minds, do not try to scare one another with threats of you nearly left islam with your words. Your jealousy is understandable and allowed in Islaam (even Aisha was jealous of the Prophets other wives, and even tried to stop one of his marriages from happening) but that never drove her to say she was disgusted or disagreed with Allaahs ruling. The purpose behind multiplr marriages was to help and sehlter war victims or widows. It is far easier for man to get back in mood for sex than a women. He wants me to marry him and be his 2nd wife. Great Britain has four million more females as compared to males. If a man falls in love with another woman surely it means he never really loved the first? But not when normal conditions exist. Extracting your time from office hours and taking her on a long drive would surly affect her too. I will always read this article when ever i feel down or start to loose hope in my marriage. The woman may be ill and cannot meet her husband's sexual needs. Polygamy was a social welfare for them. We do not like our father to have another wife, women also hate their husbands to marry again but thats because it is no longer part of todays lifestyle in many societies but if people get used to it as for example if every one have more than a wife then it will not be a big deal I think. this is just one example and nothing more than it and there are many so .. always remember anything Approved / Allowed in Islam is for the benefits of both Men & Women and we Muslims may ask for more details untill we have good understanding of the subject but are not allowed to refuse / deny those allowances. Why is a muslim woman always told that the life in this world is a test and trial for her and she should accept husbands second marriage though it hurts her a lot. There needs to be an article about what men can do for their wives bcz Im sick and tired of reading any more tripe as to how I can better serve a man. Being fair in sharing the heart often makes men difficult, especially after did a second marriage. This goes hand in hand with respect.Theres nothing that will ruin a marriage quicker than the idea that your spouse is not loyal. Have taqwa women! I dont have my parents connection.. so I dont have any moral support. If a woman refuses to have sex with husband and he understands why she is refusing to then she is not sinning. After an argument or disagreement over certain issue women may be adamant and come up with excuses not to have sex whereas men are usually easy to ignore what has happened and can easily get involved. failure after only a few months, because they are based on a weak You have both accepted something haraam and you have not Those who hate and fail to forgive, build darkness in their own heart. This pattern may be repeated when you are :(. Only patience, repect and hard work from both spouses on mutual basis are few of the qualities that can make the marriage work. And read Surrendered Wife and Fascinating Womanhood the books. (Ameen). when we started talking, I made it very clear to him my thoughts of getting involved with a married man. Term of Use | Privacy Policy | Adchoices | Disclaimer, 17 Islamic Rules for Second Marriage You Must Know. dont thomp your thinking on all men! He forgot all the years that we have spent together, since he has grown bored with me and wants a change." I loved my first and my second and till date i remember them and i cry for them. wife). Im not saying you should share your husband but if men want to take other wives then they can and we cannot put conditions on them that Allaah did not. anger and controlling one's tongue is part of controlling one's anger Second, is your question about polygamy, as to whether the first wife has a right to object to her husband's marrying another woman. He Wants To Have Sex More Often. Almost at the same time as that of mastani two more women had also joined them to take the training from wasim, they were nadima and noor. And Allah Knows Best. Surah Mujadilah (58) Read it. To be clear, no religion does anything on its own. last between you after you get married? the same punishment will happen to him. If they do what you hate, beat them with a hard blow and hurt. Thank you. I wanna be there for her in every way she would want and need. but Allah ordered it in quran, the order of allah is justice because islam is full. Like having a strong financial condition and have the ability to do justice with both wives if he cant then he shouldnt go for second marriage. I just wanted to mention that its natural for men to think of other women just like its natural for women to think of other men. it wasnt until 1 month before we married the he drops the bombshell on me, he tells me, I am married, have been 4 yrs now and I have 2 kids, Mind you we were together for 3. yeah sure , hell like that. Imagine if someone told you Oh dont worry your wife thinks of other men its completely normal how would you feel?? These doubts will persist and will be a cause of anxiety for Also kind of hypocritical how the writer first says women want to feel loved and men want to feel respected. I repented, not once in my life did I think my action worthy of repentance because I had done nothing wrong. dis is remainder to our dear sister, jst vice-vasa may ALLAH c us tru.tanx, InSha Allah. Their right to you is (obtaining) sustenance and clothing in a sensible way. no one can add or reduce quran, Please get some counseling for your situation. Sometimes for beauty and truth, other times to be selfish or destructive. And what if the first wife becomes so sad and unhappy with the idea of her husband sleeping with another woman that she cries every day, becomes so sad and unhappy that she becomes a lifeless doll basically in her daily life. Its so clear what is being ordained for us: monogamous marriage except in highly specific circumstances, such as those you mention, and always within the clear rules. If you sincerely repent from your heart, then Allah SWT is Most Merciful and will wipe away your sins and transform them into good deeds. Your dream is a premonition for a memory and brain power. During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. Can a Muslim woman marry a non-Muslim man without requiring her husband to convert? I really enjoyed it and may Allah bless the author,amin. Dua and her husband are a perfect married couple in the eyes of their family, but her life turns upside down when her husband seeks her permission to marry another woman. And if she isnt IN love with U it doesnt mean she cant be commited and faithful. same does not apply to husband my dear.. thats what I hate about the whole thing.. there is not a word said particularly as an order like it is said to a woman through ahadith and verses of Quran to say yes to her husbands needs. Yh im a girl and right now i wish i could punch u in your face!!!! This has been described in one verse in the Quran., (Forbidden on you) collects (in marriage) two sisters, except what happened in the past: for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Verse 4: 23), 17. If some dont marry more than one wife, so many women are not going to marry. And any husband and wife who love each other wouldnt do things on He Thinks About Other Women refrained from establishing a haraam relationship even though there is a So in the light of the above, its clear that the matter is not just having a right to do so, its how you use that right. Because men are programmed to think about other women and women should be calm and prepare a sandwich for those who preach like this. well said KAY i totally agree with you. Sister Fatima, a husband is never permitted to force his wife to have sex with him. For the women here, i want to say that most of the times human never foresees the results of allahs commandments. I am a devout Muslim but multiple marriages disgust me. No he does not need to ask premssion pologamy is halal not haram. the author needs to reevaluate his Islamic morals! Asalaamualaykum. There needs to be time to build trust and an emotional connection before intimacy. Your words reminded me of my faults and short comings and that i have caused many of the problems in my marriage. I will appreciate that. If he is willing to risk our marriage, our life, our children for another woman, then he must go ahead. It goes so far in Islam that if a woman wishes to perform an optional fasting (not the ones in Ramadan) she NEEDS to have her husbands permission! However, if the man wants to marry after the second, Islam limits in it. With a marriage will create offspring and kinship ties. Maasallam! But in the end i would say it doesnt mean thats the end of life. It is a secret bond and divorce is strongly discouraged by Islam. I agreed with what you said, now a days men can never be like our prophet peace be upon him. My husband married another girl without informing me. (4) Will give birth to virtuous children. Goes both ways really. @mr. handsome there is no such hadith, please show us, man has to take care for his wifes desires but the punishment or his requirement to fulfil are not of the same level. deeds), and is patient, then surely, Allaah makes not the reward of the At this point, the man has destroyed his relationship with . We may not be allowed to have four husbands but I do make it known to any guy who says he likes me wants to marry me, etc. but i don`t like the way things is going like this. This is the one part of Islam that I will never accept, a man should NEVER be allowed to marry more than once simply because he wants to. IF you believe in Islam and Allah you will have to believe that if a woman refuses to have intercourse with her husband, then she is sinning. to be frank I think many muslim men prefer to have mistresses rather than remarrya man who agrees to remarry and to take the responsibility of another woman in my opinion is very courageous..personally I will prefer my husband have a second wife rather than having many short affairs,,,,, many sisters are not even aware that their husbands are cheating on them.. nice article.ma sha Allahdescribed very beutifully in concise way..wud recommend every1 even to watch sk.yasir qadhi lectures somewhere on youtube like a garment coursejust alhamdulillah awesome.beautifully explained..both for men and women,,,,:). In Islam, the second marriage has some rules to watch out for. Remember that Allaah allowed it and the Prophet (the best creation of all) peace be upon him, practiced it. Thanks anyway. sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, not even a Sara (not her real name) is a 40-year-old Muslim convert. Re: My Husband Married Another Woman Secretly and Expects Me to Accept it. Mock or make fun of her. 1. The average life span of females is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the world than widowers. Love or Respect: Which Do You Prefer?. man destroy your life and your family. So, now YOU move away from in front of the TV and make ME a sandwich. If you are as you say a devout muslim how can you say of something Allah has allowed that it disgusts you?? i love him more than anything else. She cries every time they have intercourse and are intimate. It is never written anywhere where a woman commands her husband. Islam put an upper limit of four wives. I used to cook food for them I did everything a wife should be doing. i`m not able to give my second husband a baby. We do not live in fairy tales, our husbands are not prince charming, their real men with real needs, desires, and yes even emotions just like us. There are no contradictions in Islam at all,no loopholes.if ur husband loves you so much and u re not in the mood to be intimate he ll not go to bed angry because u ve nt agreed,.There should be understanding btw u.it is not irrespective of your feelings. Second wife! None of us see what you have to deal with or how much effort youve put into your relationship, but Allah sees it all and hell reward you accordingly inshaAllah. arent they all superficial? but after that we start arguing on small things.and he tries to hit me many time but I stopped him.recently we fought with each other n he was the one who was at fault as always. Please dont misguide people.. if u dont actually know the answer. When I thought that life would last forever and that nothing will ever change. All people (expect those nonhumans) deserve respect. I am a muslim man. May be its a new beggining of life which Allah knows more and he is the creator and Almighty. Lets be real here these conditions for polygamy to happen that everyone keeps mentioning Wheres the proof? I could not accept that and I vehemently made my stance clear to him. Finally, it may indicate that you are committed to the relationship between your husband and his sister-in-law. Its simple. I love this. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. A man in Islam should only marry no more and no less than 4 wives only. She accepted the practice of polygamy as part of her religion and when she fell in love with a married man, she was the one who suggested that she become his second wife. So permission from his first wife would be SHIRK.Proof Please. nobody is forcing anyone luv. Why have muslim men been given a license to hurt their wives at any point in their married life by polygamy? 3.If this young man were to get Youre better off coming to terms with this and accepting it than having false, purile notions about men.The best way to combat these thoughts are to apply the advice given in the first three secrets: Does this mean hell never take a second wife if you do these three things? He tries to do something (like start a business or go back to school) but fails at it. Is the husband is being gentle when he has sex? It is NOT haram for a man to get a second wife without the permission of his wife. The Truth is, one who does an atoms weight of evil,will see it. Men have distorted Islam to the point its unrecognisable. Wow i guess its informative as well as helpfull ..JazakAllah. I managed to hang on to my husband but I didnt know that our time was running out. Asalam o Alakum Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Trials will Everyone is touched by time, but who he is inside is what matters. Narrated that the Prophet SAW always tried to be fair to his wives. Hmmmm. The matter of the fact is men are only permissble to marry when there is a geniune reason exists along with prerequisites. [Al-Quran (4:129)]. I will not give it to you. Every word is not only recorded here but also recorded forever for AKHARAT. Please reference your sources, maybe you need to be careful what you say cause you will be accountable for your intentions and whats in your heart. As it is the duty of Muslims to fulfill all obligations, the Muslim husband cannot but honor such a condition. Sometimes we screw it up and forget our anniversary. Lets get this right out into the open.Some women might think men are narrow-minded brutes for this, but its the truth.Men desire sex. From Maqil bin Yasar, he said: Somebody came to the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa Sallam and said: I have a woman who has dignity and beauty, but she is barren. Sister, I would be careful about saying that multiple marriages disgust you. does not engage in sexual relations)." In Islam, marriage is a solemn contract for which the Shari`ah lays down rules and arrangements to guarantee its stability. I have no idea how all this happened but it happened and believe me it wasnt easy for me. It depends on wife to dress well and apply perfume and take care of his special foods to raise his desire. Infront of all insulting me. Whatever you decide to do (leave him or try again), may Allah guide you towards the right path and give you happiness. The cookies is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Necessary". It was only a couple of centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one. I have read that this contract is not allowed in Islam. Agreed! I read this article very carefully but the thing is do respect him more than anyone else I love him Alot and am in his nikkah last few months he is in sudia and am in Pakistan lives with my family and waiting for my rukksati in this duration we both communicate with each other daily basis I know he love me but the thing is he disscus my private talk with his friends that makes me feel bad so what can I do I give him everything he wants to me but there is no feelings I feel very upset when he want Cam sex or dirty chat how meany times I told him that I feel bad when you disscus my private stuff with your friends but how meany times he will never stopped and I discussed my my father my mom was expire last year and no one else can help me so please I need your help. Women are not to be condemned for this jealousy, for it existed in the best of righteous women, the wives of the Companions, and even in the Mothers of the Believers. Biologically, it is not possible for an average man or a woman to remain celibate throughout life. Second, third and fourth marriage is allowed by sharia. Ive read this article & I feel this article is like imposing things on women. It is not fair to find a second wife if this second wife does not know he is married, and the first wife does not know he wants other. I dont need any more excuses for inconsiderate behaviour, I have plenty from a lifetime of society-at-large encouraging me to be aggressive and violent. I was thinking the same thing. There are certain things that a woman can put on her marriage contract to prohibit the man. But its true (usually). Sometimes you have to be careful in the words you choose when talking about your faith. Because deep down, we really just want to make you happy. This is happening now to me, in the beggining of my marriage, im married for 3 months and we feel we dont understand. Please advise me. The quran says that a man must treat his wives equally, you can easily argue that if the original wife doesnt want her husband to marry again then that is him being unfair to his first wife as compared to the potential second wife. and at the end of the Day his new wife will hardly hijacked the 1st wife position Meanwhile, steadfastness to beautiful attitudes is d key to attract attention. The provisions for divorce to a marriage under Muslim law, when initiated by the wife, are known as khula and talaq-e-tafwid. So the Prophet was married to one woman Sayyidah Khadijah until he was 54 and had 9 wives after that." (Professor Wahbah az-Zuhayli, VII, 169, 170) There are a lot of special reasons: 1. Allah knows best of this world. Log in, Join our e-mail list for regular site news and updates, All Rights Reserved for Islam Q&A 1997-2023. It would be difficult for my husband to provide for multiple wives, both financially and emotionally. Think about this please. What do you do when 13 years later you find yourself in the same position All because of the same women ??? Most men wont admit it, but we do need women. Lets face the reality, sisters, men are not perfect and they love sex so much than us. I pray sister all works well for you I know what this marriages can do, my father married many wives and the out come was not good, the wives ended up hating each other and we the children did not get olong with each other. And constantly comparing us to Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) aint helping.Of course, we are supposed to emulate him (pbuh) as much as we can. But also recognize that this will also cause damage and harm to your family. second wife will bring a special reward over and above that, for several All he used to do was he was busy in his own world. New York alone has one million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. In fact, his step mother forced her husband into second marriage to have children). A man in Islam should only marry no more and no less than 4 wives only. Sister when you said i will never accept this part of islam you could have come out the fold of islam!! in Quran it was said to marry more than one. Men really desire sex. It is still adultry. It is about give and take. If you are married only for treasure, then you are among the losers. 7. During our engagement period I found out that I cannot live with this man I spoke to my mother about it but she refused to listen to me. But we just cant treat you the same way he (pbuh) treated his wives. I started praying Istikhara that night. He told me the coworker was jealous because I liked him. If Allah says to we, women, to sastify our husbands desire, doing something that is haraam, so how can he pray istikhaarah and claim And do not think this is going to be easy for the man, so much responsability. 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